What's the key to a healthy sex life?

February 5th at 10:32 am | by Tabu Customer

What’s the key to a healthy sex life?

I was experiencing pain. Dryness. Low body confidence. NO libido. And you’ll never guess what the doctor ordered.

It’s no secret that a troubled sex life can have an outsized impact on a couple’s happiness.

In fact, researchers have found that partners in unhappy relationships blame up to 75% of their distress on sexual problems.

Why?

Because sex gets complicated as our bodies change over time.

Whether we’re talking post childbirth, hysterectomy, or menopause – shifting hormones can lead to physical and emotional challenges that make sex difficult if not impossible.

Things like dryness, atrophy, low body confidence, and low libido all too often lead to… avoidance.

Sound familiar?

You’re not alone.

Nearly 50% of women stop having sex in their 50s.

This matters not just for the sake of relationships (although I think the men in our lives would pay more attention in health class if they knew that stat)....

Regular sexual activity is a powerhouse of health benefits.

From triggering hormones that promote relaxation and reduce stress to toning pelvic floor muscles and providing mild to moderate exercise for cardiovascular health – satisfying sex is deeply connected to our physical and emotional wellbeing.

“If you want to live longer, you should probably have some orgasms.”

Urologist, Dr. Kelly Casperson

While you can’t stop your body from going through changes (once upon a time I had 20/20 vision, too), they don’t have to equal the end of your sex life.

So what if I told you tens of thousands of women (like me!) are taking control of their sex lives in as little as three months with one simple routine?

I know, I know – it seems too good to be true. But bear with me.

I’m 54 years old. Happily married, but sex started becoming painful a few years ago and instead of talking to my husband about it, I started avoiding him.

This inevitably created distance between us, and the truth is, I missed him and our intimacy.

Eventually I found the words to ask my gynecologist about it and she said, “use it or lose it.” She told me to go out and buy a vibrator, lubricant, and think of sex differently.

“Think of it as part of your wellness routine,” she said. “Not just for your relationship, but for your own physical and emotional wellbeing.”

How I made sex a part of my wellness routine

If this sounds like doctor-prescribed masturbation, it is.

Not knowing where to begin (I had never bought a vibrator before) I asked her for recommendations.

She told me to look no further than Tabu.

Founded by a woman after an awkward and enlightening conversation with her own mom about intimacy and the challenges we women face as our bodies change over time, Tabu is not your average vibrator brand.

They create science-backed tools (not toys) that help remedy the common symptoms that get in the way of a healthy sex life.

“When I turned 40, my eyesight started to wane
so I got reading glasses. I didn’t just stop reading.
When I turned 50, it became harder to reach an orgasm. So what did I do? I got a massager. I wasn’t about to give up on orgasms.”

“When I turned 40, my eyesight started to wane so I got reading glasses. I didn’t just stop reading. When I turned 50, it became harder to reach an orgasm.
So what did I do? I got a massager. I wasn’t about to give up on orgasms.”

Gynecologist, Menopause Care Specialist, Dr. Barb DePree

My doctor told me to start with The Golden Hour Kit. A best-seller, this kit pairs the brand’s signature Nuri wand (a personal massager that heats up to 97 degrees) with their Aureum lubricant (a water-based, organic personal lubricant that's rich in fatty acids to protect against dryness).

It all comes packed in an elegant box with a lux feeling storage pouch and guidebook (this extra touch turned my nerves about buying a vibrator into something I wasn’t expecting – I felt almost proud of my purchase).

Per my gyno’s recommendation, I committed to using the tools 2 - 3 times a week.

Either in the mornings, evenings, or sometimes I’d treat myself to a bath and bring the kit along (don’t worry, the device is 100% waterproof).

At first things felt awkward. I had never done anything like this before.

But by the second or third session I felt like I was discovering my body for the first time.

I was able to control everything – how much, how long, how intense – and I could feel myself accepting pleasure again.

The heating feature of the Nuri wand coupled with the Aureum lubricant helped inspire blood flow which kept my dryness at bay and over time I was able to use the device internally.

Eventually, I invited my husband to one of my sessions and I’ve truly never felt closer to him.

After 22 years of marriage, this is the best sex we’ve ever had.

Golden Hour Kit

$170.00

$145.00

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Our Golden Hour Kit includes everything you need to confidently kick off and maintain your sexual wellness routine.

Developed in partnership with clinicians, therapists, and women like you, the Golden Hour Kit features our Nuri, a lightweight, heating massager that simulates the function of a dilator, and our Aureum personal lubricant, a moisturizing, water-based formula to soothe and calm your most sensitive areas. This classic kit is meant to be used alone or with a partner – the important thing is to use it (so you don’t lose it).

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Golden Hour Kit

$170.00

$145.00

300+ 5 Star Reviews

Golden Hour Kit includes everything you need to confidently kick off and maintain your sexual wellness routine.

ADD TO CART

Golden Hour Kit

$170.00

$145.00

300+ 5 Star Reviews

Our Golden Hour Kit includes everything you need to confidently kick off and maintain your sexual wellness routine.

ADD TO CART

This Gives Me Hope Again

I am happy to say for the first time in two years, I had an O while my husband and I were intimate

New York, 64

Excellent Quality

At 68 years old, the Tabu experience re-energized my sex life. Thank you for putting so much heart and soul into developing a high quality product that delivers

Missouri, 68

I feel myself coming back to me

My husband and I have always enjoyed a tremendous sex life, and I was so concerned with dryness issues I began experiencing. I started using the wand and the lubrication, three times a week, and the difference has been amazing.

California, 54

This Gives Me Hope Again

I am happy to say for the first time in two years, I had an O while my husband and I were intimate

New York, 64

Excellent Quality

At 68 years old, the Tabu experience re-energized my sex life. Thank you for putting so much heart and soul into developing a high quality product that delivers

Missouri, 68

I feel myself coming back to me

California, 54